Torn Between the Two

[renor faer]

This is a pretty..confusing problem in a way..

I'm in marching band at my school...which takes up mostly my entire life for my 1st semester... and for the last 2 years i've been in the Pit
Pit: the part of percussion that plays keyboard type instruments that don't march and are at the front of the field
The other side of Percussion is Drumline, and this year i'm on that... and It's really cool, they're some of the coolest guys i've ever met, and we're all really close..i never got that in Pit, everyone did their own thing in there..

my problem is... that the last 2 years i've gotten to be really good and close friends with people not in percussion... like..these people are my best friends.. and i got to spend time with them during marching season because we would be on buses together and hang out during practice...
now that i'm on drumline though, everything is different. I almost never get to spend time with my nondrumline friends becaus ei just never see them.. during games i'm always having to play so i don't get to stand by them.. during practice i'm on the opposite side of the field because of where we march.. and it's kind of a tradition thing for us to sign up for a bus together..

The thing is..my other friends, mainly my best friend Mal, are getting really upset with me because i don't hang out with them anymore.. but the thing is i just have no TIME to. i try to think of ways to hang out with them but my schedule is just so busy i don't have the time to do anything with them.

so i guess my question is.. does anyone have any advice on balancing two groups of friends like that? or finding time or anything? because i'm sick of arguing with them and telling them i'm not going to ditch them.

[Monica]

Well, I sort of had the same problem at my old school. So here is what I did. At lunch, I split my time up evenly with each group (one day I'm with one the next I am with the other) but I made it a point to talk to everyone every day. Even if it was just to go see the other group for like two minutes.

Talk to you friends. Tell them how stressed you are. And tell Mal that you really don't have time and she needs to understand that.

[The Private Eye]

I have never been in the band myself, but I used to be considered the band geek who never joined the band, because all my best friends were bando's! I'd go to the band parties and sometimes even sit at practices...I don't do that anymore, but that's what it was like. I know how stressed Bando lives can be, and since your friends are also bando's, they should understand why you can't see them as much as you'd like.

But if not, then i agree with Monica. Just make it a point to say hi to them every day, just let them know you still care 'bout 'em. And on days you are free, this is if you only do band and nothing else, then arrange a date to hang out (cause I KNOW bando's even get days off ) and if they can't hang out, that's their fault, nto yours.

[renor faer]

Yeah, i think the issue right now is just Finding that extra time.. because it's so hard to come by right now lol

[carlysue]

honestly, dont worry about mal.....just tell her you dont have time and that you'll hang out with her when you can, she'll understand...if she doesnt....i'll....i dont know...explain it to her or something...but really she's the only one that feels taht way...because we all understand ya'll have traditions....or maybe i just get to see ya a lot...i dont know...but really just dont worry about it

[dolface546]

Don't worry too much about it-I was also in the marching band, I was the instrument manager for 3 years and I marched my senior year. Your friends need to understand that it will be a bit harder to keep up with each other now.

[DEVILS_LIL_SIS]

my opinion on this would be that if they were true friends, that they would understand that they cant always come first, but that you are still there for them and they should still be there for you...but overall, that is your option on wether or not you want to try to work things out with everyone...hope i've been some help...
c-ya

[carlysue]

yeah if they are your friends i know they'll want to spend all their time with ya and want you to spend time with them but they should understand if you explain your side

[renor faer]

well it's all pretty much worked out now... there are still some issues with one person..but everyone else is pretty much awesome and not worried about it

[carlysue]

well thats good to know

[renor faer]

ha yeah i suppose

[carlysue]

anymore advise needed?....hm hm hm?...because i'm here for ya

[renor faer]

well i'm good actually.. me and mal (the one i've had problems with) are... it hink at a crossroads..we'll figure it out. or not.. i dunno

[carlysue]

well good luck and go with your instincts

[whoismyhero]

i have an idea.......ignore everyone else.....and spend every waking moment w/ MEE!! because i am just your favorite :-) and because grace is my hero